Saturday, December 06, 2008

Do you love yourself?

life seems to be a mystery which unfolds each day as I watch with wonder and sometimes in tearful confusion. I see manifested my thoughts on the canvas of my life like acid reflux...fears, doubts as well as idlly roaming desires. It all comes true. Still the very things that I wanted or I thought I did or which at any rate i should...still eludes me.

I was talking to my neighbour the other day about a lesson I learnt at the hands of a long time freind. My neighbour is a homely woman who is forever telling me how much she is happy that I moved there as I have motivated her to lose weight which in turn makes me feel good about myself. I'm a bit ashamed to write this but somehow I thought I am more mature than her as she sought my often confided in me abuot her complexed; she has some major issues she needs to work upon as she is too complexed about her appearance. But that day while she sat listening to me and told me how I should confront the said freind, which I cannot, I truly hate confrontations! She asked me, one simple question: Do you love yourself? I muttered an..."of course I do" after a moment too long.

That one question made me realize the 'whys' regarding a lot of issues in my life.
and I still don't know if I love myself...I know I should and I am trying now.

So i ask you today:

Do you love yourself?

6 comments:

mermaid said...

Dear Gulnaz,

I love myself when I can welcome all the praise and blame in equal measure and know that they are but grains of sand that are blown around. We are all love, if we choose to believe it.

peace,
kaveri

Devika said...

Hi Gulnaz!

I think i do...But never felt that it was too important..

have seen those positive thinkers calling for loving oneself to be succesful in life..bullcrap that sounds to me :)

as Kaveri says-- we are all love, nothing but love...negative forces keep seeing the other side...

wishes,
devika

Pat Paulk said...

On some days. On others I'm my worst enemy. I'm sure this is true for most. I think to love ourselves is to forgive ourselves which can be very hard to do. I love the honesty of your thoughts.

gulnaz said...

Kaveri- you are right and that's a good place to be but one that requires a lot of hard work to reach. :)

Devika- :) it is important to love oneself but yea not to the point of vanity or becoming too blind with one's ego and of course if one is too full of onself then that's not nice too :)

Pat Paulk- thank you and thanks for sharing your feelings too...forgiving oneself is the key to acceptance i guess :)

Raghav said...

yes. moving on. my first time here and i really like the way you write.
nice piece

mermaid said...

Didn't mean to sound like it was easy. It isn't!